Thank you for the mail you sent, it was really an interesting one.

It will be of interest to know what you would advise someone who gets wrong vibes from her work mates simply because she refuses to engage in their lazy, unserious and backbiting lifestyle in the office.

You have two choices really; fall in with them, or put up with their “wrong vibes “. It sounds to me as if you are doing the right thing in refusing to engage with them.

Keep your head down, get on with your work, and you will probably come to the attention of management. They will notice that you are not joining in with the others. You may even end up getting a promotion.

They would be a difficult group to manage for you. But the fact that you never have got involved with them would serve you well if you became their manager. Could you handle that?

If the idea fills you with trepidation then it may be time to move on, either outside the company or within it if there is space. Can you ask for a transfer? You could say you don’t want to get involved with the workgroup and would like to distance yourself from them.